Jerk or Pushover?
March 31st, 2008
Well ladies, what’s it going to be? Jerk or pushover? (”Other” is not an option). I’ll give you some time……Ok, times up. When asked this question, most girls would probably go for “Jerk.” Why? Well, because pushovers are…well….pushovers! I mean, don’t you just get sick of them? Really, when you’ve got them wrapped around your pretty little fingers, politely obeying every command you give them, never questioning your intentions, what use are they? What use are they when they can’t be forceful, can’t say no or even beat you sometimes? It’s like they’re not even worthy to be called a man. Nope, no backbone here. I’d rather have jellyfish for a boyfriend right?
But what about the jerk? Alas! Some excitement in life! A guy who can appreciate you for the lovely legs and thighs that you truly are! Someone who knows how to put his foot down, again and again and again. Nope, he’s not afraid to take things Jerry Springer style if he wants to. He calls you by your many names—most of which are conveniently located in the Urban Dictionary, and all of which you heinously despise but settle with, because you want a man who knows how to stand up for himself. He doesn’t call, doesn’t pay and doesn’t care. And you think, gosh, what luck has befallen me!
Okay, so I’ve misled you. “Other” is in fact an option, but some ladies out there are yet to realize this. Yes, “other” may take a little longer and “other” may seem like they’re all taken. Heck, “other” may not even be ready for the market right now. And yes, there’s no perfect situation but if you’re dissatisfied with these two alternatives, others are out there….waiting for you. Will you wait for them?
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Catie said,
Very true. I liked the part about the lovely legs and thighs. Most girls who date jerks just want to be young and alive. However, we all want a good many things, but the question is if we have the maturity to find them correctly. It’s all a very sticky situation, but pretty simple at the same time. What people really want is an equal, but it’s hard to find so young sometimes. It seems that all guys who are young are “I want to be so manly (the wrong kind)” or they are freaking scared to death of girls and when they find one they turn themselves into slaves. People just want balance, but few people ever find it. Then once a girl has been with a “jerk” for a long time it becomes the norm… somehow they find themselves always getting guys like that and it’s just normal to them. They no longer realize that there is something so much better for them. Well, good job on the article! You’re on a role!
On March 31, 2008 @ 8:43 pm
Isabella said,
I personally prefer jerks only because they know what they want and they seem more masculine to me. plus it keeps it more interesting. I hate being the dominant one in the relationship, that’s a man’s job in my book.
On April 1, 2008 @ 8:41 pm
Nebula said,
I’ve always had this sick desire to conquer a jerk and turn him unjerky. Not a good plan.
However, I have been told what to do by a guy who was not a jerk, and that was incredible. Loved every second of it.
On April 1, 2008 @ 8:43 pm
Britney said,
Your article is right about girls liking jerks more than “pushovers”
To me -a pushover is boring and not exciting enough for me to have a relationship with -a jerk is someone who is different and fun- but i prefer an “other” instead of the other two
I personally think its a trend and 9 out of 10 girls would prefer jerk to pushover
On April 1, 2008 @ 8:46 pm
Carmen said,
I would rather have neither, but if I had to choose, I’d probably go for the jerk. I tend to like the confidant guys, and a jerk is more likely to be so than a pushover. Pushovers have no sex appeal to me.
On April 1, 2008 @ 8:50 pm
Rachel said,
Other. Equals are worth waiting for and the others just aren’t worth wasting time on
On April 3, 2008 @ 12:48 pm
Catie said,
I have to agree with Isabella. Guys who know what they want and arn’t scared to go for it are where it’s at. It’s just too bad that the nice guys don’t ever step up to the plate. It’s hard to see people who are always hiding under rocks. Sorry, this is my second comment… but I was reading those and got excited that i agreed.
P.S. The sex appeal thing is true too! hate to have to agree, but it’s true
On April 3, 2008 @ 3:07 pm
Pdawg said,
Well… Chinedu, I personally prefer a mix of both.. You have to know what you want aka jerk and be a little submissive to the other person aka pushover.
Actually, sidetracking a little, I think the best quality in a guy would be if he were a gentleman. If he’s got that, no matter what unattractive qualities he has, it’s pretty unimportant. As long as he knows how to treat women and has some maturity and sensibility in him, his other imperfections will automatically be accepted by the women he approaches and dates.
Trust me, many girls would agree, this one’s an important quality.
On April 5, 2008 @ 3:57 pm
Hks said,
I think I agree with Pdawg, the preference is really more of a mix. Now admittedly, with your options, the jerk would be preferable to me bcs he at least has a bit of backbone and I, personally, would prefer someone to show some resistance rather than they just lie down and take anything I ‘throw’ at them. But even with the ‘other’ category, I think I’d prefer someone a bit more “headstrong”/”jerk-like” just to act as a balance to my personality… But maybe you’re being a bit too 2-D in your characterizations?
On April 16, 2008 @ 8:33 pm
Charles said,
Hey dude. I only barely browsed this article cuz I was in a hurry…
but I just wanted to tell you that you should totally put up a pic of your knarly manly scar.
On April 22, 2008 @ 12:26 pm
Nikki said,
Oh, Chin Chin. I think you have simplified things a little too much. Most guys seem to think there are three types of male. Jerks, pushovers, and themselves, who just happen to fit neatly in the middle. The reality is that the middle is just as tricky as the other two sides, and under the right influences (such as a pushover or jerk girl) will quickly move to one side or the other. Human beings are not constants, so picking a guy who is a “middle” doesn’t guarantee you anything. It’s always a gamble.
On July 7, 2008 @ 1:02 am
amarisita said,
nice sarcastic man you are, mr. french-last-name.
On November 18, 2008 @ 1:18 pm
Chioma said,
Wow. It seems that most women would prefer a jerk to a pushover. I don’t think this decision is based on either of these archetypal characters, however. It isn’t a question of spineless vs. abusive, it’s more submissive vs. assertive. You want a man that acts like a man.
Amarisita: That’s not French, booboo.
Back to the P.O.
PEACE
On November 22, 2008 @ 9:09 am