I want to be your girlfriend, not your mother!
July 16th, 2007
You hear that guys? She actually wants to be your girlfriend! Go ahead, read the title again. See? That should be incentive enough for you to clean up your act. Everyone knows that mothers do an amazing job training kids and teaching them how to be good little boys and girls. How they manage to do this, I don’t know– it’s almost as if it were built into every one of them.
Now, as true as this might be, it is only ever applicable to children. In case you’ve been hit by a truck while recovering from severe amnesia, that’s typically people aged 1-6. If you’re not in this age group, you do not qualify. The woman you’re seeing doesn’t need to teach you manners, nor does she need to clean up or even show you how to clean up after yourself. She needn’t remind you of your age or hint at how immature you get just for you to realize that you’re supposed to be a responsible grown up. And now, a guideline for those who need it:
- Clean up after yourself
The beer, the food, the trash and don’t forget the toilet. - Volunteer
You’ve done it before and you did it for free! Why not do it with the dishes or dinner? Or better yet, with both? - Manners, please!
Manners just love to be used. So when you feel angry and upset and you just want to use the heck out of something, manners are calling your name. - Act Your Age
Hopefully this won’t have to be an act for most of you but instead, would come naturally. Some of you, however, may need to take some classes on this one. Not that there’s a book that says what a so-and-so aged person should act like but someone who is say 26, shouldn’t act like a 4 year old. Okay, nuff said. - Be Responsible
Remember when mom used to do everything for you cause you couldn’t do it yourself?
Those days are over. It’s time to come to grips with that. Take responsibility for the roles you’ve placed yourself in and get better at them.
Hopefully, those should get you started on the right foot, and if that wasn’t enough, the ladies can give you some more detailed suggestions. Isn’t that right ladies?
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Tia said,
oh goodness Chinedu!! You will make a perfect boyfriend/husband some day!
On July 16, 2007 @ 8:21 pm
Emem said,
Very interesting article you have there Chinners! maybe you should consider having a poll to see how many males and females agree with your take on things. It has been my experience that once people get too comfy that’s when all the issues with cleanliness/tidiness arise. Personally am I all for 50%-50%—-each person does half the cleaning, half the cooking, and have of making the mess.
more to follow…
On July 17, 2007 @ 8:07 pm
Ashley said,
I know 2 guys who need to read this…
On July 20, 2007 @ 9:21 pm
Carlos said,
I think a big issue is that a guy should actually want to help his girlfriend out. A relationship is supposed to be somewhat of a sacrifice so show your girl that you actually care about her.
On July 25, 2007 @ 10:30 am
theADA said,
I agree with Carlos, there is no point or romance in the guy not wanting to do it. The old phrase “its the thought that matters” comes to mind here. If he does not want to do, its not worth him doing. You have to want to do things you normally would not do for this person, that makes it personal, intimate and meaningful. and no worries guys, in turn it will pay off - we never forgot wut lil stuff u do
On July 25, 2007 @ 7:22 pm
Catie said,
Hmmm… I was making my blog rounds and I came across this little jewel. Honestly, I’m not sure how I feel about it. I know I know, you’re shocked! I always have an opinion!
Let’s see, I will try to come up with an opinion in a hurry. I think that most everyone has things they need to change in order to be in a healthy relationship. I think that the most important thing is willing to change and always being aware. For instance, most people who live on their own obviously only abide by their own rules.. and there are the boys who are eternallly only ever going to be bound to their rules and these boys should remain single FOREVER! I don’t care how much they want a relationship. Everyone must compromise! It’s part of life! Then there are the guys who are willing to change things a little and not only for “love”! These are the keepers! Doing things for “love” is great and honorably and all the things we are suposed to ooo and ahhh about, but I’ve found that it doesn’t stick. YEAH! That’s right. The “can’t life without it, your’s and mine forever” type of love is not a good enough reason. Look at it this way… we all love our parents and siblings, but because we’ve known them so long we also generally take advantage of them the most. It’s the same with relationships. At first people are all in love and scared of ever loosing that person so of course they bend their will a little more than normal. However, what happens when that feeling is not always so present. Well, problems! That’s what going to happen. Suddenly, everyone goes back to normal… being selfish!
So, the best are people who can leave the single life behind when they are ready for a relationship. No one can ever have the best of both worlds. People need to compromise and even when angery or stressed or whatever as long as both members respect each other even when love is not the strongest emotion they are feeling… everyone should be fine.
On September 5, 2008 @ 7:43 pm